Comparing photos of my first and second child's first Halloween, and being struck by the difference in my mental health in each postpartum period, inspired me to write this blog post to share with you what made the difference, in the hope that it might support you too.

It is important to know the causes and signs of stress, and how to support yourself through the stressful times that motherhood can bring, and particularly to be aware of the signs that your stress might be tipping over into anxiety. If stress symptoms persist even when external stressors are not present or are reduced, and are interfering with your quality of life, then this needs to be taken seriously, and you don’t have to suffer alone. Talk to your GP, PHN or a therapist to get the support you need and deserve.

It is not your fault if you find it difficult to prioritise your self-care as a mother. Your brain has altered to facilitate focusing on your baby’s survival and to ensure bonding, and nature intended for you to be surrounded by a village to support you with raising your baby and caring for yourself.